Living with autism means you have to present your cases to others on a daily basis. All the neurotypical people online will get up in arms about something and I don't entirely understand why they are losing their shit- but when I try to tell them...
Well hey, this sort of neurodivergence is absolutely a spectrum, and I believe I have a minor degree of this in my own mind. I have managed to improve some of this by looking internally at my own thought process, but it's like the observation problem all over again: how can I be a good judge of myself?
I think I've learned to manage my expectations of what other folks will hear when I speak. Does that make sense? It's really just me conceding to reality, I think.
It does make sense. But I dislike the way the Internet tries to force a hive-mind consensus on me. Everyone yesterday was talking about the election as if it was the end of the world, and I wanted to say, "Look- he's only a man like everyone else...."
Yeah, the internet is absolutely a double-edged sword. It's amazing for connecting minds like ours together (super grateful to have you here, by the way!), but unification also tends to have the effect of homogenizing everything. That includes ideas.
I tutor, math, and one thing I like to do is go back to page one on whatever math book is being used… Of course that shocks my students, who don’t want to go back to page one, but I assured them we’re gonna go really fast through the whole book we’re just gonna pick up on the points that they have trouble understanding, and it does go really smoothly and we do pick up things quite quickly and along the way pick up on all the misunderstandings that have happened leading up to their confusion today… It’s a system that actually works pretty well even though it sounds terrible to the student at the start
To think like a lawyer, eh? So you're saying I should cherry pick evidence that supports my case while ignoring everything else and bend the truth to fit my narrative?!
Also listening because our brains hit on a thing and we're off down our rabbit holes and no longer listening
Ever had a conversation where someone said 'ok, I'm going to stop you right there' ?
usually it's the boss playing his boss cards because normal people don't talk that way but at least they're actively telling you they are no longer listening
Feels like the audio waves sync better with our brain waves, too - they're just more naturally close to our own internal rhythms, so it's way easier for us to sync with sound.
Then again, you can get absolutely mesmerized by an illusion or a really cool painting, right? It's almost like hypnosis.
honestly i was; kicked JFran out, commandeered the sink and went down a fruit rabbit hole. Took me 20 minutes to wrangle 1000 seeds from 2 pomegranates alone
Another option is to not engage with people that refuse to accept facts that you know are FACTS. Unreasonable people don’t really deserve the time and energy to be convinced about known facts it’s pointless.
Or like a philosopher? I seem to remember something about how they define everything up front (all the pieces of their argument to come), so it's clear what's actually being explored. :)
Living with autism means you have to present your cases to others on a daily basis. All the neurotypical people online will get up in arms about something and I don't entirely understand why they are losing their shit- but when I try to tell them...
Well hey, this sort of neurodivergence is absolutely a spectrum, and I believe I have a minor degree of this in my own mind. I have managed to improve some of this by looking internally at my own thought process, but it's like the observation problem all over again: how can I be a good judge of myself?
I think I've learned to manage my expectations of what other folks will hear when I speak. Does that make sense? It's really just me conceding to reality, I think.
It does make sense. But I dislike the way the Internet tries to force a hive-mind consensus on me. Everyone yesterday was talking about the election as if it was the end of the world, and I wanted to say, "Look- he's only a man like everyone else...."
Yeah, the internet is absolutely a double-edged sword. It's amazing for connecting minds like ours together (super grateful to have you here, by the way!), but unification also tends to have the effect of homogenizing everything. That includes ideas.
I tutor, math, and one thing I like to do is go back to page one on whatever math book is being used… Of course that shocks my students, who don’t want to go back to page one, but I assured them we’re gonna go really fast through the whole book we’re just gonna pick up on the points that they have trouble understanding, and it does go really smoothly and we do pick up things quite quickly and along the way pick up on all the misunderstandings that have happened leading up to their confusion today… It’s a system that actually works pretty well even though it sounds terrible to the student at the start
Hey neat! I tutored kids in math when I was in high school. I had a good time doing it! Maybe that was a step along the road to me becoming a teacher.
Dan, I tried to write about how math came to be, and this is something you might enjoy, but if you read it you'll have to let me know how I did:
https://goatfury.substack.com/p/lets-invent-math
To think like a lawyer, eh? So you're saying I should cherry pick evidence that supports my case while ignoring everything else and bend the truth to fit my narrative?!
Is that what you're saying, Andrew?!
Shame on you for doing that!
I feel like there's a really good meta-lesson here.
Looks like I managed to present my case successfully, then.
Also listening because our brains hit on a thing and we're off down our rabbit holes and no longer listening
Ever had a conversation where someone said 'ok, I'm going to stop you right there' ?
usually it's the boss playing his boss cards because normal people don't talk that way but at least they're actively telling you they are no longer listening
Feels like the audio waves sync better with our brain waves, too - they're just more naturally close to our own internal rhythms, so it's way easier for us to sync with sound.
Then again, you can get absolutely mesmerized by an illusion or a really cool painting, right? It's almost like hypnosis.
Sorry were you saying something? I was in the kitchen making a salad
Let me throw something in there to "soak" for a few hours. I'll remember it sometime never.
honestly i was; kicked JFran out, commandeered the sink and went down a fruit rabbit hole. Took me 20 minutes to wrangle 1000 seeds from 2 pomegranates alone
Exactly! Sinks are for food prep, too.
Another option is to not engage with people that refuse to accept facts that you know are FACTS. Unreasonable people don’t really deserve the time and energy to be convinced about known facts it’s pointless.
Yeah, you definitely have to choose your battles wisely.
Or like a philosopher? I seem to remember something about how they define everything up front (all the pieces of their argument to come), so it's clear what's actually being explored. :)
Yes, at least a first-principles based philosopher! Plato was like that. So was Aristotle.
I might add that while not all philosophers fit this bill, neither do all lawyers!